Dear Don Chase & Sarah: My 17 year-old son shocked my husband and I yesterday when he told us that he has canceled all of his college visits. He says he is going to take a year off when he graduates in early June. He says he needs the time off to chill and decompress before taking on college. My husband is outraged and says he should man up and start school immediately. I agree with my husband, but also agree with my son. My son wants to work part-time and live rent-free while he decompresses. Is taking a Gap Year a weakness or a strength? Is our son turning into a bum?