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Kick Butt Tip: See Your Worth – Yes, You Are All That

Today’s Kick Butt Tip of the Day is from Mel Robbins. You may know the name Mel Robbins from the same place that I know Mel from and that’s a…

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Today's Kick Butt Tip of the Day is from Mel Robbins. You may know the name Mel Robbins from the same place that I know Mel from and that's a really popular TEDx talk from a few years back.

Mel is also the author behind a number of really popular best-selling books, including "The High Five Habit" and "The 5 Second Rule." I found "The 5 Second Rule" a really great book for me to read because it made me rethink that when something needs to be done, take action and just do it. Mel says within 5 seconds of getting an idea, act on the idea or after 5 seconds, you may never take action.

Now, let's get back to the Mel Robbins Kick Butt Tip of the Day." "There's always going to be someone who does not see your worth. Don't let it be you." I personally love this. We all have that little voice of negativity inside that says you're not all that or you're probably going to fail or some other negative untrue message. Turn that voice off.

If it were possible, I would love to sit down next to you and remind you that yes, you are all that! I would also like to remind you that yes, you are possibly going to fail from time to time. But guess what? Without occasional failure, you would never learn what not to do again. Making a mistake is not the end of the world.

So once again, you are all that! In fact, you are unlike any person in the world. There's no other you out there. Even identical twins have their differences.

Remember, God don't make no junk.  You are awesome, now go be awesome!

- Don Chase's Kick Butt Tip of the Day is a daily motivational feature designed to give you the inspiration you need to power through your day. Check out all the Kick Butt Tips here.

Common Valentine’s Day Mistakes to Avoid

There can be a lot of pressure and expectations around Valentine’s Day. A great Valentine's Day can be great for a relationship: if handled well, it can take a budding relationship to the next level. Or it can reignite a relationship that is years, or even decades, old.

On the other hand, a poorly executed Valentine's Day can have significant drawbacks, casting a shadow on a relationship. Failing to invest time in planning a meaningful day or falling short of expectations can lead to feelings of disappointment and resentment.

Who celebrates Valentine's Day?

Driver Research reveals that Valentine's Day is celebrated by as many as 52% of consumers. Approximately 224 million roses are grown exclusively for the holiday, and about 3 out of every 10 Americans end up accumulating credit card debt due to their Valentine's Day spending.

Valentine's Day Mistakes

Some people set unrealistic expectations for Valentine’s Day, setting themselves up for potential disappointment. But it's important to realize the day is about celebrating love, not showing off.

Another common pitfall is assuming their partners can read their minds about what they want on Valentine’s Day. It’s better to be clear about your wishes to avoid disappointments.

While gifts are always appreciated, it's important to remember that the value lies in the thought and effort behind the gift, not the price tag. Social media can exacerbate this pressure, with people flaunting extravagant gifts and experiences. Every relationship is unique, and there's no need to compare your Valentine’s Day with others.

Additionally, love shouldn't be confined to a single day a year. Consistently expressing love and appreciation throughout the year can alleviate stress associated with Valentine’s Day. Simple, spontaneous gestures, such as leaving a heartfelt note or a surprise gift, can go a long way in making someone feel loved and appreciated.

If you've had a not-so-great Valentine’s Day, learn from it and avoid these common mistakes next time. Take a look at some of the common Valentine’s Day mistakes to steer clear of for a smoother and more enjoyable celebration.

Buying a last minute gift

Having no plans, even with good intentions, can make you seem inconsiderate and unmotivated. While it's tempting to resort to last-minute convenience-store flowers or a generic box of chocolates, your partner likely knows you're more creative. Avoid scrambling to find the perfect last-minute Valentine's Day gifts. Instead, have a plan in place, making your partner feel valued with the thought you put into it ahead of time.

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Not making reservations

Valentine's Day is a peak time for restaurants, spas, and getaways, so avoid waiting until the eleventh hour to snag your spot. Many places fill up weeks or even months before the big day. According to Taste of Home, it's wise to plan and secure a reservation five to six weeks in advance. Mark it on your calendar to avoid any slip-ups. If you realize you forgot, try calling around to see if any restaurants have last-minute openings, or opt for a cozy romantic dinner at home.

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Not discussing a budget

Surprises are great, but when you gift your partner chocolate and roses and they surprise you with a trip to Hawaii or a new car, it can be a bit awkward. Although it's uncommon to have such a huge difference in gift budgets, having a quick chat before Valentine's Day can be beneficial. Set some guidelines. Maybe agree on a small budget, like under $20, or consider pooling funds for a more extravagant joint experience.

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Ignoring preferences

People often make the mistake of organizing Valentine's Day based on their preferences rather than considering what their partner likes. Avoid overlooking your partner's wishes or desires for the day. If your significant other prefers a cozy night at home over a fancy dinner, make sure your plans align with their preferences.

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Skipping it all together

Even if you're not a big fan of Valentine's Day, your partner might be a total romantic, so don't act like it's just any regular day. You don't have to pull off a huge, fancy gesture every time, but completely ignoring it can be hurtful. Making a little effort shows you care. Complaining about the day doesn't help either. Some people see Valentine’s Day as a bit commercial, but pointing that out or making excuses to ignore it might disappoint your partner. Griping about putting effort into the day can quickly spoil anything special you decide to do for them.

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