Kick Butt Tip: Shania Twain – Forgive, Don’t Hate

Today’s Kick Butt Tip of the day comes from Shania Twain. "Forgive. Don't Hate."

Let's begin by asking, could you ever forgive your husband for having an affair with a really good friend of yours?

That scenario actually happened to Country singer Shania Twain. The year was 2008 when the entertainment world was rocked with the news of Shania and her husband Mutt Lange were separating. Somehow, details of just what took place did not surface for another 7 years.

Eileen Regina Edwards, better known as Shania Twain told the "Great Company With Jamie Laing" podcast that her husband Mutt Lange and Shania's really close friend Marie-Anne Thiebaud were having an affair. Like Shania and Mutt, Marie-Anne was also married at the time.

In an unbelievable turn of events, after Shania and Mutt divorced in 2011, Shania fell in love with Marie-Anne's ex-husband Frederic. The two tied the knot in 2011 and Shania says the two are still happily married.

At this point of her career, Shania says that she has learned how to forgive her ex for what happened. Shania also says that there is no hate in her heart. Shania says to "forgive don't hate"

If you happen to be wondering about Shania's relationship with her former best friend Marie-Anne, Shania says, "I don't see her, ever. I don't invite that trigger into my life. She's not my future. She's my past."

Shania says that when it comes to her ex Mutt, that she is "so sad for him that he made such a great mistake that he has to live with. And I don’t know what that is, but it's not, that's not my weight."

To listen to the entire Great Company With Jamie Laing podcast with Shania, click here.

If you are wondering, is there truly a way that I can forgive my spouse for cheating on me? Yes there is. There are no overnight solutions, but step by step and day by day, you can succeed. Like Shania, you can find a way to forgive and not hate.

If you or someone you know is dealing with the challenge of forgiving a cheating spouse, click here for a link that may be helpful.

Forgive don't hate.

Go get 'em tiger! God don't make no junk. You, yes you are awesome! Now go be awesome!

- Don Chase's Kick Butt Tip of the Day is a daily motivational feature designed to give you the inspiration you need to power through your day. Check out all the Kick Butt Tips here.

Leave it to social media to remind you about your singleness. With "We’re engaged!" and "Celebrating X years together," posts, it seems like everyone you know is coupled up. But not everyone wants commitment or a relationship with someone. Some people prefer being single. And no, that doesn't mean that someone who prefers to be single is bad at relationships. There’s actually research that shows people are waiting longer to settle down or commit to someone.

Many people choose the single life for various reasons. Maybe you’re happy living it up as a single person or trying to find your internal happiness until you meet the right person. Either way, there are perks to being single.

Most couples figure out issues together or may even rely on their partner to take care of things. Meanwhile, single people are challenged to be more responsible for themselves. This not only builds your character, but it puts you in charge of your own well-being.

Being single can also put you in a great position career-wise. For instance, you’re free to pursue your career choices without having to consider another person. You don’t have to take into account what your partner thinks you should or shouldn’t do. Some research even suggests that single people value meaningful work even more than married people do.

It’s often said that once you’re in a relationship, you gain weight. Men's Health magazine reported that, on average, couples gain about 17 pounds within one year of finding love. ABC reported that newly married women in their early 20s gained 24 pounds in the first five years of marriage. They also said that newly married men gained 30 pounds in the same age group. Is this what happens when you trade in your morning Saturday walks for "staying in bed just a little longer" with your babe?

Check out some of the top reasons people love being single below.

You can dance to your own music when it comes to scheduling. Single people can create a routine that works for them. This includes consistent meal times, bedtimes, and events. You never have to consider your partner's schedule. You can even pick up more hobbies, like weekly trivia or a class you've been wanting to try. For better or worse, your time is your own.

If you're single, chances are that you don't have to worry about spending money on anyone else but yourself. You can keep your money for yourself and use it for a solo vacation or a rainy day fund. Not to mention, you no longer have the financial obligation of buying someone a nice gift for birthdays, and couple-y holidays like Valentine's Day, Sweetest Day, or Date-a-versaries.

Single people get more freedom. Without the obligation of another person in your life, you'll have more time for activities. One of the many perks of being single is just having space and time to focus on yourself and emotional needs. You even get a chance to know yourself better during the added free time. Use your time the way you want.

Married folks can go ahead and sit this one out for sure. The benefit of running to the dance floor to vibe out to Beyoncé's "Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)" hit, is for those who are single. If you've been to a wedding chances are that this song was used to get all the unmarried or single ladies to the dance floor. Let's be honest, it was your moment to shine in all your singleness.

Single people don't have to deal with the phrase, "Let me try some" while eyes are glaring at their plate. That's right, you don't have to share a thing. Another food benefit of being single is taking advantage of not conforming to someone else's habits or preferences. You can try a new diet or completely indulge without the extra commentary or worrying about someone else's needs. You don't have to worry about if the food you like is off-putting to your partner.

Watch what you want, when you want without the worry. Many couples like to watch a new TV series or movie together. But Heaven forbid you tune in without your partner. That's one way to start an argument. So, if you're single go ahead and binge that new Marvel series without looking over your shoulder. Also, you don't have to sit through shows or movies that you don't care for, because your partner wants to. Watch what you want!