Recently, my wife Vicky and I traveled to Savannah, Georgia to celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary. We ran into lots of nice folks who were interested to hear about our milestone anniversary and many of them asked the standard question: What’s your secret for such a long lasting marriage?

I’m no relationship expert, except on my own relationship with Vicky and there are three very important factors we’ve always focused on through the years.

1.       Don’t fight over small stuff. Learn to see things from the other’s point of view.

2.       Communicate clearly what’s important to you. This takes practice. Your partner will often misunderstand what you are talking about.

3.       Remember what you said in your wedding vows. I know it sounds corny, but the commitment we made that day is clear in both of our minds, and we both find it sad that so many people make those commitments and then don’t follow through.

Together we raised two great kids: Erin and Jenn who are both married and on their own now, and we look forward to the rest of our lives together.

A 40 year marriage takes work, but it’s something we both wanted to make work. And it does.

Here are some pics from our trip to Savannah!!! Click on the pictures below to see the gallery full screen.