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Are These Relationship Red Flags Too Much to Take?

Gunner Jackson June 16th
There are a lot of red flags in some relationships. How much is too much?

I had a chat with a buddy recently about his relationship. And man, was he ever throwing off some red flags!

It didn’t sound like maybe he realized they were. So maybe pointing these out will help him get a grip!

Are these red flags too much? Should anybody put up with them?

  • Nagging

    A little nagging isn’t always bad. Sometimes we need to get our tails in gear. But all the time?

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  • Taking Too Long to Get Ready

    We know some people take a while, but how long is too long? Especially when it’s all the time.

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  • Getting Mad For No Apparent Reason

    It’s ok to lose your cool sometimes. But when it’s happening all the time? 

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  • Stalking People

    This should be a given. Don’t do it.

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  • Being Too Dramatic

    Not everything has to be drama. It really doesn’t. 

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Here's the Top 50 Tips For Making the Happiest Marriages

  • 1. Spending quality time together

  • 2. Looking after them when they're sick

  • 3. Feeling you can be completely yourself

  • 4. Letting them pursue their own hobbies and interests

  • 5. Seeing each other at your worst and best

  • 6. Having regular cuddles

  • 7. Being respectful to them in front of others

  • 8. Making regular plans together

  • 9. Being proud of their achievements

  • 10. Being silly with each other

  • 11. Exploring new places together

  • 12. Sharing the same sense of humor

  • 13. Trying new things together

  • 14. Always remembering important occasions

  • 15. Not making decisions for each other without checking in first

  • 16. Having a fair distribution of household chores

  • 17. Showing an interest even when they’re talking about something you don’t understand

  • 18. Forgiving their bad habits

  • 19. Doing things they want to do, even if you don’t enjoy it

  • 20. Saying ‘I love you’ every day

  • 21. Saying 'good morning' and 'good night' each day

  • 22. Listening to the other grumble about work

  • 23. Going on weekends away together

  • 24. Always making them a hot drink when you make one

  • 25. Not going to sleep on an argument

  • 26. Turning a blind eye when the other is grumpy

  • 27. Being prepared to watch TV shows you don't like

  • 28. Being nice to their family / get along with the in-laws

  • 29. Having a good routine

  • 30. Being forgiving if they admit to crashing the car or shrinking your favorite t-shirt

  • 31. Going out of your way to make one another laugh

  • 32. Being able to laugh about arguments afterwards

  • 33. Watching a TV series together and trusting the other one not to watch an episode alone

  • 34. Noting when they talk about something they are interested in or want, and treat them with it later

  • 35. Make an effort with their friends

  • 36. Accepting that sometimes you get a better night’s sleep apart

  • 37. Picking your battles

  • 38. Having weird in-jokes

  • 39. Surprising them with gifts

  • 40. Always praising them to other people

  • 41. Being prepared to share your meal when eating out

  • 42. Saying they still look beautiful when they're looking their worst

  • 43. Being comfortable with using the bathroom in front of each other

  • 44. Buying an extra snack or drink even though they said they didn't want it

    (Because you know they will want one when they see yours)

  • 45. Farting in front of each other without being grossed out

  • 46. Leaving nice messages for one another

  • 47. One of you being a voice of reason

  • 48. Regularly delivering tea or coffee in bed

  • 49. Playfully insulting each other relentlessly

  • 50. Always taking one another's side even if they’re not right